The Ways to Deal With a Sore Loser Kid

From the same article:-

1. Since children who are sore losers often have unrealistic expectations of themselves, one of the best things parents can do is to help them set goals that emphasize effort and improvement, as well as winning. Those goals might include passing the basketball well during the pressure of a game, or swimming two lengths of the pool nonstop.

2. Look at the subtle messages you're giving your child about failure. Many of these are unconscious and therefore very difficult to recognize. For example, if you have a big celebration when your child's team wins a game, but you just say, "Well, you tried," when they don't, you're teaching that you value winning much more than effort.

3. Talk to your children about some of your own frustrations. Sore losers often worry that anything they don't succeed at will be shameful to their parents. This concern is compounded if they never see or hear about how family members handle disappointments. Don't feel you have to talk only about sports. Discuss how it felt when you didn't get the lead in the school play or when you got turned down for a job you really wanted.

4. Let your children practice losing as well as winning. Consistent winning of games at home may set up unrealistic expectations for when they play with their friends. Don't let your children win all the time. Remember that they learn some important lessons from disappointment. It will make it easier for children to master the skills they need to recover emotionally and move on.

5. Encourage your children to keep trying, even when they're frustrated. If bad losers don't feel they can be successful at an activity, they nay not do it at all. Letting children know that you'll be proud of them simply for trying will often give them the incentive they need to redouble their efforts. If they persevere, they may find that they can master what they're been avoiding.

6. Use television and newspaper coverage of sports to help children explore their own values. How would they feel if they fell during a skating competition or ski race? Why are the people who have no chance of winning competing? Our children need help interpreting these issues, just as they need adult guidance interpreting the pictures of war that they see in the newspaper or on the evening newscast. If you're watching an event like the Olympics or a marathon race, point out people who are having fun or who are doing better than they had in the past.Encourage children to focus on the changes in their own performance and skills, not on the number of games they win. Focusing on performance and skills is, after all, what professional athletes and other successful people do.

The Reason of Our Child Become a Sore Loser

My eldest son is a sore loser and I am so worried about him as he has put a lots of pressure to himself to win. So I have try to find a way to change him and I have found an article about it from http://www.drkutner.com/parenting/articles/sore_loser.html by Lawrence Kutner Ph.D. as follow:-

The reasons for becoming a sore loser might be:-

1. They worry about what others think of them if they don't win, or feel that winning is what make them good people.

2. Bad losers have more trouble than other children in making and maintaining friendships. The difficulty with friendships increases their feelings of worthlessness and, therefore, their need to win.

3. The reasons for becoming a sore loser rest in a combination of genetics and environment. More commonly, they get from their families, teachers, and the mass media. Children watch how their parents handle things when they're frustrated. Some children who are sore losers have parents who are sore losers, who teach through their actions that getting angry is the best way to handle frustration. Even well-meaning questions like, "Did you do your best?" can unintentionally give some children a disturbing message. If they didn't do their best, they worry that their parents or coaches will view them as disappointments. If they did do their best and still failed, then perhaps they are hopeless.

The sign of TOO FAT...haha

Jay sleep until his bouncing net steel got a big crack ....... Is this the sign of TOO FAT???

Formular 1 Race - Nic Vs Jay

Fight for Mother Love & Attention

Fighting for my attention or love???

Home Made Pop Pia (Spring Roll)

Basic Ingredient:-
1) 2 nos. of Bangkuang & 2 nos of small carrot
2) 500g of Pop pia skin
3) Salad
4) Pork (can add prawn if like)
5) 2 nos. of Cucumber
6) 1 bag of Chili boh
7) Fried egg cut into small piece
8) Fried small red onion

Fried ingredient 1 & 4 with chicken stock seasoning, slat & pepper
Fried chili boh with some brown sugar

Than just follow step by step and roll them together.

ENJOY.........

Children Through Tantrum - Ways to Avoid

Through tantrum is very common for children at about age of 3 but it can be avoided if we know the course of it. In DK – The Science of Parenting book, bad behavior like tantrum might be due to:-

· Tiredness will course imbalances in autonomic nervous system so the natural calming mechanism no longer function well.

· Hunger will disrupts kid hormones. If blood sugar level falls, kid body will releasing stress hormones.

· Suger & Sweet. If eat chocolate & sweets on empty stomach, the sugar level will go sky high & the sugar level will boost within 10 – 15 min. than after 30 min the sugar level drop. This will course Hypoglycemia.

· Food Additive. Some additives reduce level of dopamine & noradrenalin in brain and course hyperactive behaviour.

· Low in DHA. DHA from fish oil (Omega 3 Fatty Acid) will boosts serotonin levels. If low in DHA level, kids will have temper tantrums, sleep problem, behavior problems & learning problems.